A raw, honest conversation to help you feel less alone, process the emotions no one talks about, and find peace with your birth—so you can start to see it as the miracle it actually was.
I Didn't Get the Birth I Wanted
From a mama who's been there (and also happens to be a therapist & coach)...
You have your beautiful baby in your arms.
You birthed her and you know what a miracle she is.
You know how lucky you are that you both made it through, healthy and well.
I see you, mama.
The one you dreamed of.
The one you worked so hard for.
The one you listened to endless (and I mean endless) birth affirmation tracks for.
You are so, so grateful.
You did not get the birth you wanted.
And.
Everyone says you did your best. You know in your head that’s true.
Everyone says that what really matters is a healthy mama
and a healthy baby. You know that’s true too.
But if it’s all true, why do you feel so sad?
Why do you feel like a failure?
Why do you keep playing things back through your head, wondering if there was anything you could have done differently to change the outcome?
It’s ok to tell the truth:
You’re devastated.
No, you’re not grieving a baby (thank god.)
But you are grieving the loss of the rite of passage into motherhood you envisioned for yourself, a certain kind of bonding that can come through birth, and an experience of your own power you were longing for.
I’m here to tell you:
You’re feeling all of that because you’re grieving.
It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby or you’re not grateful beyond words to be their mama.
- Let the emotions of your birth move through you and release
- Let go of the stories you're holding about your birth & yourself, and
- Re-write the narrative about your birth
- So you can stand in your power as the incredible birthing mama that you are.
All of that is totally legit.
The free 3 episode private podcast that will help you go from pain to peace.
From someone who really, truly gets it.
(Unlike your BFF who actually got her magical water birth.)
Introducing...
I Didn't Get The Birth I Wanted
I went down this road with my first baby...
Processing the layers of grief took me years. Not to mention dealing with the gut-punch of jealousy anytime I heard of someone successfully having a natural birth (yep, even my close friends—add on another layer of shame about that 🙈.)
Cue the sadness, guilt, and questioning how it must have been my fault (was it the pre-birth acupuncture that caused my crazy labor pattern? Not doing enough prenatal yoga? My ambivalence about hypnobirthing?)
Committed to an unmedicated, out-of-hospital birth that turned into a c-section, being coerced into giving my baby formula right after she was born, and complications that led to ER visits and antibiotics.
My Story
Aiming for an unmedicated V-Bac with my second baby.
Doing everything in my power to make it happen.
And once again, it didn't go how I planned.
Fast forward six and a half years.
I learned a lot to get there.
And now I get to share it with you.
But this time my birth was incredible—
so empowering and joyful and connected.
I was able to release myself from the ”how” and allowed myself to flow with my body and my baby, with full acceptance. 💪✨🌈
1. Birth, Broken Open: The first birth—the hopes, the reality (aka the smashing of said hopes), and the aftermath.
2. Surrender & Strength: The second birth—"The Redemption" (I didn’t get the birth I “wanted”, but I ended up getting even more.)
3. Healing Your Birth Story: How you can move through your disappointment and transform “the birth you didn’t want” into the gift that it is.
The podcast has 3 juicy episodes:
Start listening now!
I know what it's like to feel tremendous loss about not having the birth you dreamed of.
I also know that you don't have to stay in that place of grief forever.
And learning how to move through your profound pain when life doesn't give you what you wanted--
it's one of the most powerful things you can do as a human being--for yourself and for your kids.
- Feeling more peace with your birth, instead of replaying the "what ifs" over and over.
- Knowing you're not alone—your feelings are real, and needing emotional healing after an unexpected birth is completely valid.
- Starting to see yourself and your entry to motherhood through a new lens—one that honors your strength, resilience, and the power you’ve had all along.